But as everyone snows, being too honest will make others want to run and hid-bernate..

But as everyone knows,
our self awareness is still a long way behind our actual knowledge.
When we allow ourselves to be irritated out of our wits
by something,
let us not assume that the cause of our irritation
lies simply
and solely
outside us,
in the irritating thing or person.
In that way we endow them with the power to put us into the state of irritation, and possibly even one of insomnia or indigestion.
We then turn round and unhesitatingly condemn the object of offense,
while all the time we are raging against an unconscious part of ourselves
which is projected into the exasperating object.

Such projections are legion. Some of them are favourable, serving as bridges for easing off the libido, some of them are stacles because the unfavourable projections usually settle outside our circle of intimate relationships.
To this the neurotic is an exception:
consciously or unconsciously,
he has such an intensive relationship
to his immediate surroundings
that he cannot prevent even the unfavourable
projections from flowing into the objects closest to him
and arousing conflicts.
He is therefore compelled- if he wants to be cured- to gain insight into his primitive projections to a far higher degree
than the normal person does.
It is true that the normal person makes the same projections, but they are better
distributed:
for the favourable ones the object is close at hand, for the unfavourable ones it is at a distance.
It is the same for the primitive:
anything strange
is hostile and evil.
This line of division serves a purpose, which is why the normal person feels under no obligation to make these projections conscious, although they are dangerously illusory.
War psychology has made this abundantly clear:
everything my country does is good,
everything the others do is bad.
The centre of all iniquity is invariably found to lie a few
miles behind the enemy lines.
Because the individual has this same primitive psychology, every attempt to bring these old-aged projections to consciousness is felt as irritating. Naturally
one would
like to have
better relations with one's fellows,

but only on the condition that THEY live up to OUR expectations- in other words, that they become willing carriers of our projections.

Yet
if we make ourselves conscious of these projections,
it may easily act as an impediment to our relations with others,
for there is then no bridge
of illusion across which love
and hate can stream off
so relievingly,
and no way of disposing so simply and satisfactorily of all those alleged virtues that are intended to edify and improve others.


Thanks Carl,
I feel Jung-er already.


CG Jung, Dreams, Princeton Bollingen Translation By R.F.C. Hull